The wedding is over and reality has hit us like a ton of bricks… house work, our careers, bills, and all of the challenges that life brings us.
As I lounge on the couch writing this blog, I feel like I need toothpicks to keep my eyes open. I can barely gather my thoughts together because I feel like my brain is fried. You see, I just got off work this morning and I am beyond exhausted. Now don’t get me wrong, the reality we face is not bad. In fact, since marrying my best friend I am absolutely loving life. And facing reality isn’t that scary when you have a partner to do it with.
House:
As soon as we came home from the honeymoon we started unpacking our house. And yes, that can be stressful at times, but for us it was exciting! We loved the fact that we had our own space to decorate. We bought brand new furniture, came up with a color scheme and went to work. And I think it looks pretty pretty if I do say so myself. Most importantly it is a place that we can rest, relax, laugh, eat and create memories.
WORK:
The downside to coming home is having to go back to work. Balancing our totally different schedules can be so difficult. All I want to do is spend every moment possible with my husband… I am a newlywed you know. But with me working nights and Nic working 8-5 it makes it nearly impossible. We have learned to manage however. And I think we are finally getting into the groove of things. We spend about 3-4 days apart a week, occasionally getting the privilege of seeing each other in passing. But on my days off, we definitely try to do something fun, something that takes our mind off of our jobs. We try to get away every now and then, and I feel like the beach has become “our” place.
If we can’t go out of town we love hanging out with friends…
Or just lounging around, popping in a frozen pizza, occasionally enjoying a special treat like strawberries and chocolate (my favorite), and watching (or sleeping through) a movie.
Oh, and football season… One of the highlights of the fall season…
BILLS:
I guess you could say I was a bit “privileged” before getting married. I lived at home with my parents enabling me to save up my money for our wedding. I had no bills. Oh those were the days. But now we are on our own completely. I had no idea how much money it takes to just live. I’m pretty sure when you sign a marriage license you put a label on your forehead that says “charge me.” It was a bit overwhelming at first, but I love that we have the control of what we spend and what we save.
OUR FIRST BIG PURCHASE:
Most of you know that a few weeks ago Nic’s car decided to die. The only hope to reviving it was replacing the engine. So we had been managing, or at least attempting to manage with only one car. Boy was this difficult. We had to carefully map out our days and since our schedules are so different I had to rely on others to give me rides to and from work. Not very fun. So we started looking around for cars. Our taste was seeming to be more expensive than our budget, but with the help of our friend (who works at a dealership), we were able to find one. And we absolutely LOVE it. We are so blessed.
REALITY:
So yes reality has hit us like a ton of bricks. Our lives are always changing. Our things are always breaking. And yes, I tend to have a melt down about once a week… mainly due to pure exhaustion. But this life is so rich and so sweet. We are so blessed to be facing our trials and our victories together. I feel honored to face this life with the man I love. And I am LOVING our new reality… our new life together.
Love is the answer at least for most of the questions in my heart, like
Why are we here? And where do we go? And how come it's so hard?
It's not always easy and sometimes life can be deceiving
I'll tell you one thing, it's so much better when we're together.
-"Better Together" by Jack Johnson
